by Niamh Bartley
There is no bond like a father-daughter bond for those who are lucky enough to share one. Our dads are our first loves, they’re the ones who have been around from the beginning to protect us, love us, support us and fight for us when we need it most. When we were in junior infants the teacher asked, ‘who is your hero?’ and when we got older it became ‘who inspires you?’, I don’t know about you, but my answer is and always has been ‘my daddy’ and a lot of people would have answered the same, even though in juniors I might’ve confidently scribbled ‘Barney the Dinosaur’ to the best of my ability.
Anyone with a father or father-figure like that will definitely want him to be part of their wedding day if it’s even remotely possible and there are so many different things he can help with from planning to being there on the day itself. Everyone knows the role of the father of the bride on the big day, and there are different traditions in every culture that incorporate the bride’s dad, the most common being the walk down the aisle. This is still a huge tradition in a lot of countries and cultures across the globe. If your father walks you down the aisle it symbolises the strength of your relationship with each other, as well as the love and support he has for you and your other half in one of the biggest moments of your life.
Another big part he’ll play in most weddings is making a speech or toast. Let’s face it, he’ll tell embarrassing stories, make silly jokes and basically take the mick out of you if he’s an Irish dad, but he’ll also bring up some wonderful memories you have shared and tell you how he supports and loves you in this chapter of your life. There almost certainly will be tears and hugs all round but it might even bring you guys closer when he says this all out loud in front of all of your guests.
Basically, your dad’s role on your wedding day is a reflection of what his role has been in your life thus far, he’ll be there to support you, make sure you’re happy and dry a few tears along the way. He’ll make you laugh, make you cry and make you sad that you’re no longer his ‘little girl’, but don’t fret about that because to him you’ll always be his baby. Your wedding day is not just about starting a new chapter with a new man, it is also a ceremonious way of saying goodbye to the man who has been there for you since day one. Whether you moved away from him twenty years ago or twenty months ago, it’s a big deal, so try to make the most of it and include him as much as you can on this momentous occasion.