Writing your own vows is one of the things that every bride dreams of doing, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's easy to do. We're going to give you an easy guide full of tips on writing your own vows, with the least amount of stress possible.
Make them personal, but not too personal.
Of course you want your vows to be purely about your groom/bride so you'll want to make your vows personal to the two of you. But don't make them too personal, leaving your guests feel awkward and uncomfortable.
Put some jokes in
Small jokes are always a good part in wedding vows, but make sure you don't fill them up with jokes. A few jokes here and there will be enough to keep your vows lighthearted but simultaneously filled with meaning. Make sure not to use only private jokes between you and your partner or else no one will understand and will be confused. Try to use jokes that your friends and family know about and can laugh at.
Don't write them the night before
One of the worst things you can do after deciding to write your own vows is to leave it until the last moment. Don't do that. You'll only end up stressed and panicked. As you get nearer and nearer to your big day, make sure you have a plan done out that you can have handy and add to when you think of things. This way you can make sure all your best ideas actually go into your vows, and not just the ones that you can remember the night before.
Read other vows for inspiration
No one expects you to come up with your vows without reading any other vows first. Search the internet or get your hands on a wedding vows book to help give you some ideas on where to start and what exactly a wedding vow is. If you find one that you really like you could even incorporate some of the ideas from it onto your own vows.
Don't make them too long
You don't want your family and friends getting bored after you keep talking and talking about your partner. Keep your vows to two minutes max. This way, people will still be tuned in to what you're saying by the time you're finished. And by cutting it down to a certain time, you can cut out any parts that mightn't be that important and relevant as others.
You want your vows to reflect you and your relationship, and that won't happen if you're using the standard cliches that everyone uses. You might think you're being original, but you're not. Keep it simple and personal, and representative of your relationship.
Practice out loud
This is very important as it allows you to find out if you've written your vows too complicated or if they're hard to say. Practice them in front of a friend and take any constructive criticism that they might have, they'll want to have the best vows possible. This might also take some of the nerves off you if you're uncomfortable with public speaking.
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